Confessions of a Pug Mum: Why My Pugs Sleep in My Bed
Where a pug sleeps is always a personal choice. Some people are adamant that they won’t have their pug sleep in their bed. Others are more than happy to. There’s no right or wrong. It’s what works for you and your family. For me, I have my reasons why my pugs sleep in my bed. They may not be conventional but it is what works for me.
Prior to getting Ref, we had always had big outside dogs. They were occasionally allowed inside but never for long. They were after all just dogs. It’s just how I grew up. We always had family dogs but dogs were outside dogs and that was that. So when I wanted to get a small inside dog, I had this idea of how things would be. My pug puppy would have a kennel outside, have a soft bed in the lounge room and a pen in the spare room with a soft comfy bed to sleep in at night. They would never sleep in my room.
Well all of that changed when I brought home Ref. It really didn’t take me long to realise he wouldn’t be outside much at all. With a big backyard, I was worried that this small 8 week old puppy would somehow get stuck somewhere or manage to get out. I knew pugs were mostly inside dogs but since we’d never had a small dog, I really didn’t understand how different it would be. The kennel was a waste of money. But I was still adamant that Ref wouldn’t be sleeping in my room and definitely not my bed.
I did my research before I brought Ref home and knew the first few nights wouldn’t be easy but he would settle in and get used to sleeping on his own. I had a pen so he had his own little safe room for at night and when we weren’t home. The first few nights he did nothing but cry. I’d get him settled, he’d sleep for a bit and start crying again. I persisted because he had to learn the rules. I didn’t just persist for a few nights, this went on for 6 weeks. 6 whole, long and tiring weeks. It was like I had a newborn baby with sleepless nights.
I’ve always been a crappy sleeper. And quite often I’d have panic attacks during the night. There was one night that I completely freaked out that I’d lost Ref. Mind you, he was actually sound asleep for a change but in my panic, I got up and woke him up. That night, I felt bad I woke him so I brought him into bed with me to settle him and calm myself. When I woke up the next morning, I remember mum saying to me that Ref had a settled night and how good that was that he didn’t wake the whole house up with his crying. I told her that was because he slept with me. And that was the moment that I knew Ref was going to continue to sleep with me in the bed.
There was no more crying during the night from Ref. The only time he’d wake up was when he needed to go to the toilet. And for me, I started sleeping better. I was having way less panic attacks with him right beside me. Even now, I still have panic attacks in my sleep but it’s easier to calm myself with my pugs beside me.
So you’d think it would be a given that when I got a second pug that they would be in the bed with Ref and I. But when you get a rescue, you just don’t know. I had decided that when I knew Serina was coming to live with us, I would let her decide where she wanted to sleep. The first night I brought her home, I had a bed on the floor next to mine for her to sleep in. I’d just wait and see how she went. That first night, she woke up barking every hour at a sound she heard. That’s to be expected when she was in a new environment. I’d calmly talk to her and tell her it was ok and to go back to bed. She did each time.
The second night, we did the same thing. Serina slept in the bed beside mine on the floor. The first 3 or 4 hours of the night, she woke barking again every hour. I got to about midnight and knew I couldn’t have another sleepless night. I don’t function well without sleep. So I decided to pick her up and pop her on the bed. I was surprised to start with that she let me pick her up. She was a terrified little girl. But it was the best decision. She curled up at the end of the bed and slept for a good 5 hours without waking up. It took her some time to really settle in but from then on, she would only wake up once during the night and bark. That was when my mum would get up at 4am to get ready for work. That only lasted a month or so and she would only wake up when I did.
Now, I sleep fairly good most nights. Serina curls up on the pillow next to me and Ref snuggles into my chest. I can’t get to sleep any other way. At some point during the night, Serina wakes up and moves to sleep close to me. She loves sleeping my arms. Some nights it’s not easy sharing the bed with them when they both want my spot in the bed and I wake up with very little blanket and barely any pillow but most nights, I love the cuddles I get from them. And those mornings that I wake up as the meat in a pug sandwich are my favourite. I love having them snuggled either side of me even if I can’t move.
I have different reasons why my pugs sleep in my bed but I honestly can’t imagine not having them sleep in my bed with me. It is what works for us. Where does your pug sleep? Why did you choose that? Share your story in the comments.