Confessions of a Pug Mum: Why My Pugs Sleep in My Bed

Confessions of a Pug Mum: Why My Pugs Sleep in My Bed |

Where a pug sleeps is always a personal choice. Some people are adamant that they won’t have their pug sleep in their bed. Others are more than happy to. There’s no right or wrong. It’s what works for you and your family. For me, I have my reasons why my pugs sleep in my bed. They may not be conventional but it is what works for me.

Prior to getting Ref, we had always had big outside dogs. They were occasionally allowed inside but never for long. They were after all just dogs. It’s just how I grew up. We always had family dogs but dogs were outside dogs and that was that. So when I wanted to get a small inside dog, I had this idea of how things would be. My pug puppy would have a kennel outside, have a soft bed in the lounge room and a pen in the spare room with a soft comfy bed to sleep in at night. They would never sleep in my room.

Confessions of a Pug Mum: Why My Pugs Sleep in My Bed |

Well all of that changed when I brought home Ref. It really didn’t take me long to realise he wouldn’t be outside much at all. With a big backyard, I was worried that this small 8 week old puppy would somehow get stuck somewhere or manage to get out. I knew pugs were mostly inside dogs but since we’d never had a small dog, I really didn’t understand how different it would be. The kennel was a waste of money. But I was still adamant that Ref wouldn’t be sleeping in my room and definitely not my bed.

I did my research before I brought Ref home and knew the first few nights wouldn’t be easy but he would settle in and get used to sleeping on his own. I had a pen so he had his own little safe room for at night and when we weren’t home. The first few nights he did nothing but cry. I’d get him settled, he’d sleep for a bit and start crying again. I persisted because he had to learn the rules. I didn’t just persist for a few nights, this went on for 6 weeks. 6 whole, long and tiring weeks. It was like I had a newborn baby with sleepless nights.

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I’ve always been a crappy sleeper. And quite often I’d have panic attacks during the night. There was one night that I completely freaked out that I’d lost Ref. Mind you, he was actually sound asleep for a change but in my panic, I got up and woke him up. That night, I felt bad I woke him so I brought him into bed with me to settle him and calm myself. When I woke up the next morning, I remember mum saying to me that Ref had a settled night and how good that was that he didn’t wake the whole house up with his crying. I told her that was because he slept with me. And that was the moment that I knew Ref was going to continue to sleep with me in the bed.

There was no more crying during the night from Ref. The only time he’d wake up was when he needed to go to the toilet. And for me, I started sleeping better. I was having way less panic attacks with him right beside me. Even now, I still have panic attacks in my sleep but it’s easier to calm myself with my pugs beside me.

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So you’d think it would be a given that when I got a second pug that they would be in the bed with Ref and I. But when you get a rescue, you just don’t know. I had decided that when I knew Serina was coming to live with us, I would let her decide where she wanted to sleep. The first night I brought her home, I had a bed on the floor next to mine for her to sleep in. I’d just wait and see how she went. That first night, she woke up barking every hour at a sound she heard. That’s to be expected when she was in a new environment. I’d calmly talk to her and tell her it was ok and to go back to bed. She did each time.

The second night, we did the same thing. Serina slept in the bed beside mine on the floor. The first 3 or 4 hours of the night, she woke barking again every hour. I got to about midnight and knew I couldn’t have another sleepless night. I don’t function well without sleep. So I decided to pick her up and pop her on the bed. I was surprised to start with that she let me pick her up. She was a terrified little girl. But it was the best decision. She curled up at the end of the bed and slept for a good 5 hours without waking up. It took her some time to really settle in but from then on, she would only wake up once during the night and bark. That was when my mum would get up at 4am to get ready for work. That only lasted a month or so and she would only wake up when I did.

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Now, I sleep fairly good most nights. Serina curls up on the pillow next to me and Ref snuggles into my chest. I can’t get to sleep any other way. At some point during the night, Serina wakes up and moves to sleep close to me. She loves sleeping my arms. Some nights it’s not easy sharing the bed with them when they both want my spot in the bed and I wake up with very little blanket and barely any pillow but most nights, I love the cuddles I get from them. And those mornings that I wake up as the meat in a pug sandwich are my favourite. I love having them snuggled either side of me even if I can’t move.

I have different reasons why my pugs sleep in my bed but I honestly can’t imagine not having them sleep in my bed with me. It is what works for us. Where does your pug sleep? Why did you choose that? Share your story in the comments.

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Kristy is the founder and editor of The Pug Diary, a photographer and pug mum extraordinaire to Ref + Serina. Kristy has combined her passion for photography with the love of pugs to bring you all of her knowledge of pugs and more to you through The Pug Diary.


  1. Avatar Deena Jones on June 18, 2018 at 6:48 am

    I have 4 pugs that sleep with me now, and I’m about to add 4 more with the pups. I have a king size bed and usually get about a foot n half of it for myself.

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 21, 2018 at 7:39 pm

      Wow! That is going to be very crowded.

    • Avatar kent moon on June 25, 2018 at 11:50 pm

      you live in sheer heaven.I love my little girl pug sleeping with me.Its true that they do hog a bed tho and will work you right up to the edge.But I wouldnt trade it for anything!!!!!

      • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 26, 2018 at 8:04 pm

        You’re not alone there Kent. I wouldn’t trade it for anything either. How lucky are we?

  2. Avatar Tanya on June 18, 2018 at 7:09 am

    I have 5 foster failures and each one of them has a special spot on the bed. One even has her own pillow at the foot of the bed just for her. Two are from the same puppy mill and seem to like to sleep side by side. Another prefers to sleep against my chest, but if I’m facing the wrong way (he prefers to be on the outside) he’ll sleep on my head. The last one has to be smack dab in the middle. For some reason they all gravitate to my side of the bed up against me. My husband thinks that is very funny!

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 21, 2018 at 7:40 pm

      I love how they are all different in the way they like to sleep in the bed.

  3. Avatar Steve B on June 18, 2018 at 8:04 am

    I’d love to have my Bonnie sleep with us BUT, we get enough Pug Fur on our floors without having it in our bed as well. Thank God Bonnie sleeps very well in her own cage every night.

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 21, 2018 at 7:41 pm

      It is great to hear that Bonnie sleeps well in her crate. There are plenty of people who will only crate train their dogs and there are plenty of benefits to it.

  4. Avatar kathleen on June 18, 2018 at 1:38 pm

    from day one my pugs have slept with me- never considered another option. Though Jenny Rose takes us most of the California King sized bed, she does leave me a little room so I can sleep. She does take up more of the bed than my other 3 pugs ever did, but she is the princess of the pillows and I wouldn’t have it any other way

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 21, 2018 at 7:42 pm

      Aren’t they funny like that. Who would think 1 pug could take up so much space.

  5. Avatar Danielle on June 19, 2018 at 7:03 am

    Just a question but does your pug shed so much fur. I have a black pug and she is forever shedding fur. We now have to keep her outside. ?

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 21, 2018 at 7:45 pm

      The shedding of fur is just how it is with pugs. All pugs shed, some more than others if they have the double coat. You can reduce the shedding with daily brushing and weekly brushes with a de-shedding tool. Like most pug owners, you just get used to the fur. That is all just part of life with pugs, or just about any dogs.

    • Avatar Garry Lee on June 30, 2018 at 11:28 am

      Our girl Gypsie left us over 2 years ago now and we miss her bossy little self every day. We still have pug hair on some of our furniture and clothes., and in the car.
      all memories

      • Avatar kecheever on November 8, 2020 at 1:10 am

        I hope you can get a replacement pug someday♡ when my 1st was taken too shortly from this world it took 3 months of grieving before I drove 5 hours to pick mr Samson up. Hes been the best therapy dog.

  6. Avatar Auntie Shooie on June 25, 2018 at 8:24 pm

    I love my black pug Borey so much! He is five now, and makes me laugh everyday. Yes he is part of my bed too. We live in Alaska and he is so warm to snuggle in bed after our prayers. He puts his little head down and I hold his paws. He loves to spoon too. If he wants me to turn over he taps me on my arm or shoulder with his little paw. I like to read my morning iPhone news still in bed. If he is tired of waiting for me to get up and make breakfast then he lays his chin and neck over my eyes so I can’t read anymore. The last time I was sleeping on my back with arms over my head. I woke up wondering where he was sleeping, I looked over, he was still sleeping on his back with his front paws in the air. I slept in another room when my ex snored but when Puggy snores it’s very comforting. Funny how that works! I can’t bare to think of any pug sleeping outside alone at night. That hurts the heart. Every Sat. cleaning with dust mop and washing bedding after a black pug shedding is not nearly as bad as my 10 year old Nephews bedroom that’s for sure!

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on June 26, 2018 at 8:01 pm

      Oh I love this story. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Avatar Vivvy’s Mom on June 28, 2018 at 2:43 am

    My 2 year old rescue pug Vivian has her own bed that sits on top of my bed. When we go to bed at night, she immediately crawls into her own bed…though sometimes I’m the one who is not done with cuddles for the night. Haha. Usually around 5 am, she gets out of her bed and curls up next to me somewhere.

    When I first brought her home at 8 months old, I thought she would sleep in her bed on the floor…too much shed fur everywhere anyway. Now I can’t imagine not sleeping with her near me.

  8. Avatar Keidy on November 25, 2018 at 6:11 pm

    I’m just gonna say: I’m my pug’s bed and I can’t sleep if it isn’t this way. When the alarms goes off and I don’t want to get up, I’m in “mortal danger for a pug attack” ( I mean, just licking and moving his tail and licking… did I say licking?) Obviously I do it on purpose because I love sleep with my little Kylo and waking up in the morning with a “pug attack”.

    • Kristy Beck Kristy Beck on November 27, 2018 at 6:55 pm

      I totally hear you. I can’t sleep without mine next to me.

  9. Avatar deqt314 on February 12, 2019 at 8:56 am

    My husband grew up in a sterile pet-free home. I often ask him if he ever thought he’d end up sleeping with a maltese,a pug, any number of his five children, and of course his wife in his bed! He always says “never,” but he wouldn’t have it any other way. Since our eight year old maltese has slept in our bed for years, it was a given that our new pug, Biscuit, would as well. To that end, I have never heard Biscuit cry. In fact, he’s draped across my midsection right now, softly snoring. Love that little snuggle pug!

  10. Avatar keira belanger on November 8, 2020 at 1:08 am

    My mum and I have always wanted a grumble since we met our first pug, he wasn’t a staple for a pug, he was very calm and collect. The 5 pugs we have are balls of lights and hyper speed energy. My favorite is how different their personality range, my black female rules the roost while being the smallest she wins 100 percent of the tug of wars, boodlw is thick and slender but he makes dinosaur sounds like you wanna pause the TV just to listen to the strange things comming from him. Minky is the same, they cry when they hear a baby on TV cry like they’re being beaten, when ive never punished them like that. I don’t believe in punishing pugs, theyre way smarter then they pretend to be. Mr Samson is a neck boy, he always wants to be the big spoon but his neck will drop on yours like a scarf, he perfers this. Otto is an old man black pug, 15 years old now and he hates the sky. Always yelling at ufos. But he used to be an escape artist, our neighbors would call us almost daily that Otto was in their yard. This was before getting 4more pugs, he was looking for other dogs to boss. After getting 2 pugs you notice they bond and grow sweetly. We won’t ever go pugless again, this is our way of life. These pugs are more family then people. Also omg they’re all so soft in their own way, boodle feels like rabbit fur and minky is so smooth its different from soft, the scent in the ear is my favorite too, sometimes it smells of corn chips.
    The sound of the 3 in my bed is close to being on a creaking ship.
    I cant sleep in silence anymore.

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